Do YOU really have to break during a breakup?

After a bittersweet civilised mutual split, I couldn’t help but wonder what a persons’ favourite pastime post-break up may be? 

Do all Women become a forever alone, Bridget Jones wonnabe, with sweats, joggers and onsies, ice cream and the occasional bottle of wine? Or do we all become reckless and jump on the nightclub and rebound bandwagon?

I decided to ask my guys and gals what their break up bonanza is and how best to deal with this sometimes sticky situation. After all not everyone can have a Gwyneth Pawltrow and Chris Martin conscious uncoupling, or can they?

Whilst many of the girls I asked portrayed subtle signs of the stereotypical Bridget Jones Phenomenon, they indicated that this ‘mourning’ phase didn’t last long. Whilst questions asked during this period are often self-reflective, they are of the negative sort: why me? Is it my entire fault? Am I really that unlovable? Whilst I did not really go through this phase, it can occur in time capsules of a couple of hours to a couple of weeks. The sooner you’re out of the slump the better. Whilst in this melancholic period of time, choose to do things that will raise your mood, girlie chick flicks, sci-fi, and action whatever makes you feel good films, delicious food, healthy food, and shower,  keep up personal hygiene, motivational music is also brilliant. Your mood should levitate in no time.

Drinking away your problems will not solve your problems, this should not be seen as an escape mechanism, but if you want to have a fun night out or sociable drink then  by all means, go ahead. Make sure not to associate alcohol with having a good time, you can enjoy yourself just as much without the beer goggles. Beer goggles, which can lead to that drunken text, or that drunken rebound? Whilst the rebound is a common way of ‘getting over someone by getting under someone’, it is often self-destructive and de-moralising, it’s a situation which you may not be mentally prepared for.

After a negative experience, no matter how pleasant it may have seemed on the exterior or to a third party. I believe it’s always best not to dwell in negative emotions, wallowing in self-pity, and progressing negative attitudes and thoughts will possibly just wreck your self-esteem that little bit more.

Creating positive energy around you is important in day-to-day life, and is possibly one of the best ways and regain your self-confidence. Why not buy those new gorgeous boots that make your legs look endless? Go for that haircut/colour you've always wanted! Read that book that sends you to a magical place/other universe! Travel places you've always wanted to go! You’re single and the world is your oyster. Whether you do these things alone or with a friend, they are guaranteed to boost your confidence and help you realise a break up really isn't the end of the world. A break up is an opportunity for you to rediscover yourself and establish who you are and what you want.  After all is this person really worth your time/tears any more?

The people I asked all agree and said that once they put their mind to something positive and that they felt passionate about they started to feel better, and more self-confident. These projects were as different as starting a web-page, starting to learn and passing their driving test, getting a new haircut or going on a shopping spree, starting/continuing their new Blog (guilty of that one!), going to the gym/running/yoga, just going for long autumn walks,  and reading hat book/seeing that film they've always wanted to see. 

They all realised that when they concentrated on themselves and starting to find out who they were, gaining more confidence they started to find they were more happy and felt less negatively about the whole breakup situation, with some eve remaining friends with their ex’s.

You’re probably a lot stronger than you think, you can be independent, it’s important to love yourself and be happy in your own skin before trying to love someone else or asking someone to love you.

A few break up DO’s and DON’Ts:

•          DO be as civilised as you can and listen and try to understand each other and the reason for the split
•          DON’T become angry and bitter over a small (probably insignificant in the future) situation or misunderstanding,  you did at some time like this person
•           Do Have a day or two to yourself watching movies and being an ice cream loving couch potato
•           DON’T let these few days turn into a week or longer
•          DO something creative, whether it be fashion, beauty, literature, photography, art, or anything else you can think of, expand your mind and knowledge
•           DON’T post hatred or grief over social media; no one likes a moaner, keep your dignity intact, please
•           DO  keep thinking positive and SMILE (it really does confuse people) Laughter is the best medicine and it’s free
•           DON’T expect to be over this person in a day (if you are then great) but depending on the length and depth of your relationship it may take longer
•           DO take every day at a time, find something positive about yourself every day, and why not give yourself a little treat?
•          DON’T jump onto the first person that comes along, it may not be as good for you as you thought(given that everyone is different and move at different paces) but respecting yourself is most important
•           DO accept what has happened and move on. Everything happens for a reason, this person wasn't right for you at this time, you really never know what the future holds.

Remember -no matter what happens- to keep your chin up and look for inspiration in the right role models, thinking and feeling positive about the situation and yourself is the key to stay happy and achieving self-confidence again.

Thanks for reading, hope you enjoyed this post! As always please feel free to comment away and come back to read my next post!

Much loves x

The Barbaric Black Friday

Black Friday is the consumerists’ post-Thanksgiving tradition. The holiday of Thanksgiving is peaceful tradition and cultural celebration; giving thanks and blessing the harvest. The Black Friday Bonanza is set the Day after the thanksgiving festivities, from the traditional Thanksgiving family meal, to the beautiful and magical Macy’s Parade.
 Black Friday has gained its name due all stores involved, coming into the black rather than red side of their finances. Whilst this holiday brings joy and a four day weekend, it also signifies the beginning of the Christmas shopping season, with sales, discounts and offers galore. Those who have not heard of the black Friday before have thought the idea of this day is rather nice, and enables people to purchase Christmas gifts at a lower rate.

 Whilst this is predominantly an American consumerist tradition, the Black Friday phenomenon has arrived into the United Kingdom, with major retailers offering a minimum of 10% off and a number of online shops are offering free delivery. Despite the fact that the United Kingdom doesn’t celebrate the holiday of Thanksgiving, the Black Friday marketing scheme appears to have reached the hearts of the directors and CEO’s of the large enterprises. Christmas has clearly come early for Britain’s this year, right? Raising Britain’s economy and enabling individuals to get a bargain before Christmas, what a dream come true!

Unfortunately with these brilliant bargains follows a rather bleak atmosphere, behaviour of individuals participating within this advantageous day become rather sinister. Waking this morning I visited my usual daily social media sites, upon which I found videos of consumers, news stories and was appalled by the British publics’ behaviour and greed. In stores within the UK people are often seen queuing on sales days to take the first pick, ‘early bird catches the worm’. Never have I seen before the behaviour upon these videos, other than in fictional films, designer Sample Sales or American news feeds. People within the U.K, today have been greedy, selfish and insensitive, with men, women, pregnant and elderly, pushed, shoved, thrown to the floor and have burst into fights, with individuals being taken to hospital, and numerous stores being closed by Police.

Caution! Videos and Links may be distressing to certain individuals! Most violence is not visible but must be advised that videos do contain violence! Please do Not watch if you are not comfortable, thank you.

Black Friday UK style fights, a broken wrist and bedlam as shoppers scramble for bargains

Appalling behaviour; women fighting over underwear in UK store

DARK SIDE OF BLACK FRIDAY #BBCtrending - BBC NEWS


 I am by no means condemning all of the British public, and I do believe most of the British public can be rather peaceful, respectful and polite shoppers. If you are planning or have been shopping today please remember to be careful, whilst you may have good intentions to brows the bargains others may not be so innocent and participate in ruthlessness, no matter the consequences, to get their discounted goods. I’m just glad I didn’t leave my grocery shop till today and did it earlier in the week.

 Personally I’d rather not camp out in the cold and push and shove to my bargain, but wrap up warm and browse my bargains online. It is important to remember the online versions of these sales are also available. With online shopping on Black Friday there is less chance of being bruised and battered; from the humans whose savage instincts overcome them upon this day, however there is also chance of queues and web-page crashes. This can be frustrating but is understandable that not all websites will have a big enough server to enable all shoppers’ access at once. If you wish to participate in these sales,

I’d advise visiting the online webpage before venturing out to the store. Certain stores allow you to reserve an item or different products beforehand, this can be very advantageous, and I would advise anyone to do this the day before a big sale. Be patient, and remember queues will happen either way. Try and remain calm, if your item is gone, or out of stock, it is not the staff or a different customers fault, they may be alternative or a different store you can visit. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this article, and are careful with your shopping tactics and budgets this Black Friday and discounted weekend.


 Much loves x

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